The Hunger for Certainty

We are all starving for a sense of "knowing." We want to be sure that the path we’ve chosen is the right one, that the work we’re doing has value, and that we are, in fact, who we say we are. This hunger for certainty is what drives us toward external validation. We look for signs in the reactions of others, in the numbers on a screen, in the awards on a shelf. We hope that if enough people tell us we are good, we will finally believe it. But this borrowed confidence is a leaky bucket. No matter how much you pour in, it’s always empty by morning.

The truth is that there is no certainty in the act of creation. There is only the attempt. Every time you start a new piece, you are stepping back into the unknown. The skills you’ve learned are helpful, but they don't guarantee a result. The "knowing" is a mirage that disappears the closer you get to it. This constant state of doubt is exhausting, but it is also the only place where growth can happen. If you were certain, you wouldn't need to explore. You would just be executing a plan.

We have to learn to live with the hunger. We have to accept that doubt isn't a sign of failure, but a sign of engagement. It means you are still pushing against the boundaries of your own understanding. Instead of looking for a permanent foundation of praise, look for a temporary sense of internal necessity. Why do you have to do this? What is the question that you are trying to answer? If you can find the necessity, the lack of certainty becomes bearable. You stop trying to "be" something and you just start doing the work. The certainty is in the doing, not in the being.